Saturday, March 28, 2009

Raw

I have heard that when a person goes the unfortunate misfortune of amputation, they continue to feel the lost part as if its still there. The part lost was there in their life for so long that the nerves still send the signal to the brain that that the lost part still exists. Its like the body has lost a part but the brain wont let go. Its still sending all the signals that the body part is still there. Then over the period of time pain sets in. The loss of limb is now a stark reality. Its gone. Forever. The body and mind both mourn the loss. Together.

Sometimes dying relations are like that loss of limb. The brain is still sending the right signals to the mind and heart. Its all there. Nothing has changed. Though the shift has taken place. Its happened. But the nerve endings still feel it. The acceptance of loss is not happening. Then slowly pain sets in. The pain is real. It lets you know that you are suffering. You are suffering the loss of emotions. Emotions that have been amputated, cut out of your life.

Amputation of emotions is a sad business. Its sad but happens to the best of us. Some go through it with childhood best friends who outgrow friendships, some go through it with their siblings unfortunately, some go through it at work where they have been too long, some go through it with their lovers where love doesn't actualise, some go through it with their life partners when things have gone so wrong...all in all every one goes through the amputation of emotions, sometimes or many times in this life.

People say emotions are feelings and one cant touch or feel emotions. One doesn't have A body part where Emotions live. It could be heart, it could be mind?!! Its not like you can do a heart surgery and repair a broken heart. Still our emotions exhibit behaviour every bit like they are physical part of our body. The pain of amputated emotions is as real as a body part. The raw nerve endings of the emotions keep sending you signals even after things have ended...

Which part of our body does emotion reside in? Why does sorrow manifest it self physically in tears? Why does Joy get expressed in the form of laughter?!! Why are emotions such a mystery??

A Seed for thought for the emotions amputee

19 comments:

Mandeo said...

Every coin has two sides.. its ok if u flip it.. wen ??? its ur call

Destiny is how strong your determination is ... you make it..

Also its called " effectivity of the environment" :)
You dont want to be a part of the environment , u want the environment to be a part of you....

As said " its not how hard u can hit it, its how hard you can take it"

Smile .. there is always a GREAT MORNING AFTER A DARK NIGHT :)
RISE AND SHINE...

SePuLcHeR said...

rightly said :)

emotions arent a mystery to the ones who know themselves....they can never be!

talking science ..... yeah smiles and laughters show hapiness...and tears sorrow ...... or is it that thats the way we have grown up looking at people who do that when they feel that way!

i think i can go on n on in this one.... picking up diferent points altogether from the blog :)

an nice topic crafted beautifully :)

Small Miracle said...

For and emotionally sensitive person like me, its always a quest to be able to control emotions. They control me currently : )

I think some topics can be debated till cows come home. Thats wot makes them fun to write about.

SePuLcHeR said...

maybe thats u..but when i look at the world around me i see people controlling emotions..... :)

havent u seen one person who wears the same smile everytime u say a HI ..... someone who wud use the same words at every same situation....behave exactly the same way everytime....time after time!

i know its a little off topic - but those too are emotions. they only control u when u surrender to them ... or maybe make urself believe that u cant master them!

Small Miracle said...

As always Sepulcher u land up sayin things that makes me think...yes, maybe i make my self believe...

SePuLcHeR said...

:)

not every emotion could be controlled .... when u r with urself ..... but can be while u aint alone. so that cud be a start on ur way of mastering emotions :)

when u let emotions take over u ....or let them control u...alwayz remember u r giving authority to a lot more ppl to control u!

Small Miracle said...

Hmmm...point taken! : )

This is that said...

hmmm, mystery it is to me.

Small Miracle said...

...to all of us roogie....to ALL of us!!

SePuLcHeR said...

not ALL :)

Small Miracle said...

Sepulcher, i know you enuff to say its the same for you. Lets not pretend : )

SePuLcHeR said...

how can emotions be a mystery?

i believe they are amongst the biggest truth in our lives!
arent emotions something that diferentiate the other living creatures from us?

arent emotions a living proof that we are alive?

arent they controlled by us .... or us by them (the endless debate)?

arent the truest of emotions....the truest of US?

how can emotions be a mystery? :):):)

I Wear It Like A Tattoo said...

Emotions really are a mystery according to me...
Ill tell u why...its cuz i tell myself to be a certain way but i always follow my heart and my heart is unpredictable...
if im in love with the wrong person then i will constantly tell myself that its the wrong thing to do. Through everything something inside me will keep pushing me, i will cry and i will yearn for the person and then maybe one day i will walk away and tell my friends something like 'ive moved on' but in reality it would be the opposite! I HAVE BEEN FORCED to move on cuz i have no choice and with every MOVE ON situation there is sacrfice and there is pain. Despite telling ourselves that there is no pain.

I could go on and on about how emotions are a mystery cuz sometimes a small word said to us can break our hearts..doesnt that mean its a mystery? we cant trust ourselves..no matter how much restraint we have..we lose ourselves to our emotions

I love what miracle lady has said about amputated emotions..its so true, its like something in us is still rooting for normalcy but a relationship is dying and slowly emotions are facing the brunt of something we sowed which now is wilting..

Think about it?
Emotions really are a mystery, attachment can cause so much pain and yet bring so much JOY..
Its a perfect mystery!

Small Miracle said...

"attachment can cause so much pain and yet bring so much JOY..
Its a perfect mystery!"

Hmmm...very well said Tattoo boy. That is what makes this life so exciting, bizzare, facinating, intense, confusing and liberating...

I love this topic! : )

I Wear It Like A Tattoo said...

"it makes life liberating"

so true! its only when we deal with the past and work with the pain we're dealing with can we move ahead and find liberation

i love that abt pain
it teaches u a thing or two
makes our skin thicker..makes us wiser and smarter..stronger

Small Miracle said...

Hmmm...what makes me go through is pain is that it almost always is follwed by JOY!! Immense Joy : ) I love joy...don't we all. so, thats what keeps me goin...the rainbow...

I Wear It Like A Tattoo said...

i remember speaking so passionately about rainbows and their connection with hope and resilience.. it was in 2000 during a social workshop we did and all students sat together and discussed their approach towards hardships..

I remember talking about how life is a path to the metaphorical pot of gold at the end of the rainbow..and even if we dont get the gold..we atleast walked along the rainbow...cuz after every storm a rainbow appears :)

Small Miracle said...

life is gold...thats what i believe. But we want more and more hence the pot at the end of the rainbow is never achieved. Life is full of rainbows..i have had enough to know that there is resilience and HOPE in all of us. I am thankful for BOTH, the storms and the rainbows...

SePuLcHeR said...

i agree with the joys npains and all that part u guys believe in!

emotions....the heart doesnt control them...the mind does!

heart just pumps blood :)

if u can control ur mind...the mystery's over ..... if u let it control u....u wud forever live in the mystery :)

choice is urs. i made mine :)

n well....just choosing wont help....choosing is just the begining :)